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Esteban Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:11 PM |
megg_inc wrote:
edit: But I still have an impression that you're overreacting a little bit...
Right, so in your opinion, what would have been the most appropriate way to react? |
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ricv64 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:14 PM |
megg_inc wrote:
That was my answer to ric,
My retort
I think she's HOT in a mysterious way , discuss |
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megg_inc Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:39 PM |
Esteban wrote: megg_inc wrote:
edit: But I still have an impression that you're overreacting a little bit...
Right, so in your opinion, what would have been the most appropriate way to react?
I just think it's not that big deal, that's all... We just had some funny conversation with girls and I've said already that I'm sorry that you'd been ignored and I don't understand why we spend so much time discussing it? |
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megg_inc Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:43 PM |
ricv64 wrote: megg_inc wrote:
That was my answer to ric,
My retort
I think she's HOT in a mysterious way , discuss
Glad your retort doesn't involve that guy with scary teeth ;)
But I'm outta here, feel free to discuss her hotness! ;P |
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Esteban Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:50 PM |
megg_inc wrote: Esteban wrote: megg_inc wrote:
edit: But I still have an impression that you're overreacting a little bit...
Right, so in your opinion, what would have been the most appropriate way to react?
I just think it's not that big deal, that's all... We just had some funny conversation with girls and I've said already that I'm sorry that you'd been ignored and I don't understand why we spend so much time discussing it?
So much time? Fuck right off. I've mentioned it TWICE. I was happy to mention it once, but YOU came back and said I get offended too easily, so I explained that I wasn't offended, but I was annoyed, which you replied to with the flippant and irrelevant 'So you should start some kind of a men's hour or something and talk about engines, strippers and porn! haha :)'.
Just what does that have to do with it?
I appreciate that you apologised, fair enough.
Then you said AGAIN that I'd overreacted, so with you having said this twice now, I was curious to find out how you would have reacted, so I asked you that question, which you neatly avoided by complaining about how we're spending so much time discussing it, which you're directly involved in.
So you see I haven't been ranting on about this without provocation. You've been happy to engage with me about being annoyed, yet now you've been asked a tricky question, you're pissing and whinging about the whole thing.
Stroll on. |
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ricv64 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 2:52 PM |
megg_inc wrote: ricv64 wrote: megg_inc wrote:
That was my answer to ric,
My retort
I think she's HOT in a mysterious way , discuss
Glad your retort doesn't involve that guy with scary teeth ;)
But I'm outta here, feel free to discuss her hotness! ;P
When or if this thread reaches 10 pages , I post the pic of her showing off her new tattoo |
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goosey_84 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:29 PM |
| sorry to all for straying from the original topic....will try harder next time! ;) |
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Esteban Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:42 PM |
goosey_84 wrote: sorry to all for straying from the original topic....will try harder next time! ;)
Naughty Goosenburger! |
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goosey_84 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:45 PM |
| in all seriousness Esteban it was interesting to hear both a good and bad experience......i imagine it's harder to stay friends with an ex than it is to cut 'em off completely? |
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Esteban Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:46 PM |
goosey_84 wrote: in all seriousness Esteban it was interesting to hear both a good and bad experience......i imagine it's harder to stay friends with an ex than it is to cut 'em off completely?
It takes effort, cutting them off is easier long term but you feel like shit for doing it. |
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goosey_84 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:54 PM |
ok here's a question:
say you break up and it's not messy but you're not exactly keen on being friends....but they really want to make the effort...do you still just cut them off??
(doing my best to turn this back around into a relationship thread) |
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Esteban Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 3:57 PM |
goosey_84 wrote: ok here's a question:
say you break up and it's not messy but you're not exactly keen on being friends....but they really want to make the effort...do you still just cut them off??
(doing my best to turn this back around into a relationship thread)
If you explain to them and they won't accept that you don't want to be friends then that might be the most sensible option, yeah.
Do you agree? |
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weirdmom Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 4:07 PM |
Esteban wrote: goosey_84 wrote: ok here's a question:
say you break up and it's not messy but you're not exactly keen on being friends....but they really want to make the effort...do you still just cut them off??
(doing my best to turn this back around into a relationship thread)
If you explain to them and they won't accept that you don't want to be friends then that might be the most sensible option, yeah.
Do you agree?
Agree. If you don't want to be friends, but don't have the cajones to say it, then just don't make any effort to call or hang out with them. They'll either get the hint and slink away or confront you and then you can make it clearer.
On the now canceled show "Studio 60" two of the leads had been on-again/off-again for 7+ years or something like that. They were broken up but were working together. She had a new boyfriend and he was saying that she was still in a relationship together. Yes, it had changed in that they weren't sleeping together, doing social things together, but they were still tethered to each other and considered the other in what moves they made or didn't make with new people.
THAT'S my biggest beef with people who claim they're still friends with their ex. Is it a true friendship or just a change of status?
Don't know if that makes sense. I know it's possible to have a real friendship- I just think it's rare. One test would be how you feel if they start dating someone else. Are you comfortable hearing the details the way you would be with a friend who has only ever been a platonic friend? |
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goosey_84 Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 4:11 PM |
| very interesting...maybe it all comes down to how the relationship ended?? obviously it it's messy you're not going to be eager to maintain any kind of "-ship"...and whether or not you were friends before you started dating. |
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weirdmom Posted Thu 13 Sep, 2007 4:21 PM |
goosey_84 wrote: very interesting...maybe it all comes down to how the relationship ended?? obviously it it's messy you're not going to be eager to maintain any kind of "-ship"...and whether or not you were friends before you started dating.
sure. It also depends, I think, on how far you went on the relationship spectrum. If you were friends, dated for a few weeks, and it just wasn't working, it's probably fairly easy to get back to a good friendship. If you were engaged and say it ended OK, it still might be hard to get back to a friendship even if you had a strong one prior to getting involved.
To tell the truth (and so Esteban doesn't feel like he was the only one vulnerable on this thread!) there was an ex that I was great friends with, we dated, it ended. It was bad at least on my end since I was one heartbroken little lady. But for a long time (once I got over the heartbreak) I wished we could be friends because I missed what a special friendship we had. I had to accept that, at least in our situation, this wasn't possible.
Too messy. So much time has passed that perhaps it could be OK but now out of respect for my husband, I just don't think it would be appropriate. My husband, by the way, is fantastically NOT jealous and has no problem with me being friends with guys in general but geez, you gotta have some boundaries. And he knows the whole story so he would definitely not be OK with it! |
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