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Nikki Posted Mon 01 Oct, 2007 11:45 PM |
Hey Paul! Nice to see you posting again! We miss ya around here! :D
I say go for it! Like Anne said, just mentioning it to her isn't going to ruin the friendship you have. If you don't you'll regret it forever and you'll always wonder "what if..." I'm sure she's feeling the same things you are! Good luck! :) |
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weirdmom Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 12:21 AM |
paul_c wrote: Nah. Different friend! haha
Oh. I may be meshing these two girlfriends together in my head. That's probably better since that might be a little weird to suddenly live next door to your girlfriend.
Anyway I do hope you talk to her soon. |
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feri Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 12:26 AM |
Nikki wrote: Hey Paul! Nice to see you posting again! We miss ya around here! :D
I say go for it! Like Anne said, just mentioning it to her isn't going to ruin the friendship you have. If you don't you'll regret it forever and you'll always wonder "what if..." I'm sure she's feeling the same things you are! Good luck! :)
Yeah I agree with her. I've had the 'what if' and it's a pain in the ass. Besides if something happened between you and her this weekend (From my understanding) ...maybe she has the same feelings? Ok sorry I don't want to predict what she'll say but maybe she feels the same way as you do? |
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mozman68 Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 12:31 AM |
feri wrote: Nikki wrote: Hey Paul! Nice to see you posting again! We miss ya around here! :D
I say go for it! Like Anne said, just mentioning it to her isn't going to ruin the friendship you have. If you don't you'll regret it forever and you'll always wonder "what if..." I'm sure she's feeling the same things you are! Good luck! :)
Yeah I agree with her. I've had the 'what if' and it's a pain in the ass. Besides if something happened between you and her this weekend (From my understanding) ...maybe she has the same feelings? Ok sorry I don't want to predict what she'll say but maybe she feels the same way as you do?
Sorry Paul...I had some kick ass advice tha would have solved all of your problems...but now...I go and attack the wife....
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ashleyb Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 1:04 AM |
| Good luck. |
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Yulia Nox Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 1:35 AM |
paul_c wrote: Well basically, things happened with my best friend at the weekend, and i don't know what to do about it. Of course talking to her about it would be the first step, but it's kinda weird. Things weren't weird with her. Really great in fact! I've known her for years, and we've always got on like a house on fire. The thing i'm worried about is losing her- not because of what happened but because of what might happen in future i.e. a messy break-up or something.
Another problem is i'm crazy about her and i'm worried she won't feel the same and it was just a moment.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!!
I had a similar doubt before my boyfriend and I became a couple...
take the risk! Talk to her. If you have had a good relationship as friends, for years, I guess you can talk to each other with sincerity.
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ElspethOllie Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 1:43 AM |
paul_c wrote: ...we've always got on like a house on fire.
That made me giggle...
I'm going to start saying that. |
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monkey Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 1:44 AM |
| go for it seems like the good advice here, play it right and at very worst she'll be flattered. |
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nats Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 1:58 AM |
weirdmominaustin wrote:
Your fears are totally understandable. But I say take the risk. Ask her what she thought about the whole thing. She is probably equally crazy about you and having the same confusion.
Just make it clear that you're cool staying just friends and wouldn't want that to be messed up but if she feels like there is something there, you would like to be more than friends.
Agree..
as you posted, talking is the first step, otherwise things with her will be weird.
despite of all the fears I would take the risk if I were you, `cause having this special friendship i don´t think things will be messed up, and besides, having this strong feelings, if there are chances of becoming more than friends i think it worth the risks...
edit: agree with feri and yulia, I hate "what if..." situations |
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lindsey22295 Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 2:34 AM |
| At the risk of sounding redundant I think you should go for it. There is a large possibility that she may be feeling just the same as you. If you don't do anything you will regret it for the rest of your life because you'll never know what could have been. Even if she turns you down at least you will know one way or the other. And I think it is possible to stay close friends should you two break up in the future. |
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Meridith Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 5:07 AM |
I just want to add my 2 cents here. I went through a similar thing with my husband. (We've been together for 15 years total now.) We started out as best friends and that developed into more. He was the one who was worried that if we moved forward it might ruin our friendship. I guess I kind of worried, but I didn't want to wonder what if. I hate that. He also knew that I might not wait around forever. So we went for it. Long story short...it's been awesome sharing my life with my best friend. It's made a strong foundation for our relationship, and I am so glad we took that chance.
I echo what other's have said. You don't want to wonder and regret not finding out where it could go. And you know...she's probably feeling the same way about you. Talk to her about it.
Wishing you all the best! |
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goosey_84 Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 5:42 AM |
just pull a jason schwartzman a la 'shopgirl' and say....
can i kiss you or what? hahaha
...ahh just go for it paul! :D |
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Ursina Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 9:58 AM |
awww Paul :) been there and if I think back, the times spent and wasted because neither wants to show their true feelings, scared of the outcome... it's time suffered needlessly..... so courage! go for it, speak to the girl!
all the best
Sina:) |
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Hanne Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 11:29 AM |
If you don't take the chance, I think you'll regret it for the rest of your life, especially if she suddenly meets someone else. So go for it!
And remember to tell us how things go ;o) |
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megg_inc Posted Tue 02 Oct, 2007 3:45 PM |
Paul, boyfriend who was your best friend before is the best thing that could happen to a girl, so please, go for it! Especially as it seems that she has feelings for you!
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